The art of seduction: can learning to seduce be romantic?

I normally focus on old-fashioned romantic ideas here on Romance Tracker and generally avoid topics having to do with sex or seduction . . . not so much because I’m uncomfortable with those topics, but because there are so many sites out there dealing with physical love that there’s really no possibility for originality.  But while the word “seduction” usually has a negative connotation for people looking to add romance to their lives, is it possible for the art of seduction to be romantic if used correctly?

I believe the answer to that question can, in some cases, be yes . . . and a post I read on a site called Seduction Tutor, which offers readers daily seduction tips, helped convince me even further that romance and seduction do sometimes go hand-in-hand.

First let me say that I don’t think there’s anything even remotely romantic about trying to seduce a person without giving any thought to seeking a romantic, monogamous relationship.  While I don’t think two adults should be stopped from doing what they wish or be chastised for doing so, I also don’t think you should fool yourself into thinking that there’s anything romantic about a one-night stand.

Having said that, however, I do believe that the art of seduction can be a positive influence in a loving relationship with your wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend, and I don’t think the use of seduction should be limited to people who have just met.  On the contrary, as Seduction Tutor often shows, you can use seduction tips in your marriage or romantic relationship to add new excitement and passion.

One post in particular made me notice the Seduction Tutor blog and opened my eyes to the possibility that romance and seduction really aren’t mutually exclusive.  In the post, the author makes some great observations about romance, including the following:

To me, romance is about showing a softer side of yourself, a more thoughtful side in a way that is meant to increase the woman’s attraction for you. Like I just mentioned, most guys either try to use romance to create attraction, or they do too many things in an attempt to romantic, and the effect is lost.

And that’s a really great point: if you’re trying to be romantic just to be romantic, it isn’t true romance at at all.  Romance really is a tool you should use to accentuate and focus upon an attraction that already exists . . .  not to create it.  Similarly, the art of seduction can be a great tool to add some more passion to an already romantic relationship . . . but be careful if you’re looking to skip romance and move right to seduction.

While Seduction Tutor may be geared toward people looking to initially attract members of the opposite sex, it can also be a great tool for loving couples looking to add more spice to their relationship.  Just because you’re in a long-term, monogamous relationship doesn’t mean you can’t experiment with passion, sexiness and flirtation with each other!